How to overcome motherhood anger

Anger in motherhood is something that most parents don’t like to talk about and for obvious reasons. It’s a touchy subject.

It’s almost like that unspoken taboo because people automatically assume that you’re being a mean aggressive mum when you show even the slightest hint of anger.

Sometimes people forget that mums are human and they still experience these different overwhelming emotions from time to time.

Still, there are many ways you can cope and manage those stress levels better.

Let go of the idea of being a mum who is happy all the time. I know that you didn’t expect to be overwhelmed sometimes but these are just some of the realities of life.

Acting like those emotions don’t exist will cause them to boil up inside and one day you’ll explode.

You shouldn’t call yourself a bad mum for feeling the way you do.

The next step is to understand yourself better so that you can start working on some healthy solutions. You can also keep a journal to see the patterns that cause you to feel angry.

Sometimes you might end up finding out that your triggers don’t necessarily have to do with what your kids do. Maybe you’ll see that you’ve been bringing work pressures home or it could be that you’ve been placing extremely high expectations on your family which causes you to criticize their imperfections.

You need to do a deep assessment of the root causes as part of the solution.

The rage within always needs an outlet. But, not just any kind of outlet though. It needs to be a healthy one.

Some like to turn to coping mechanisms like drinking, smoking or even adopting habits like yelling at your kids. These are destructive habits that you’ll come to regret later on.

You could use some coping mechanisms like taking deep breaths whenever you’re feeling the rage, screaming into a pillow instead of screaming at your skids, walking out for some fresh air or calling a close friend to let it all out.

You should always aim to replace any toxic mechanisms you had with healthier ones that work even better in the long run.

It’s a red flag when you find that your anger is starting to affect your life and those around you. It could have started with a little screaming and progressed to a full-blown anger outburst that can even lead to violence.

Don’t allow the rage to get worse. Arrest it while you can and seek some therapy from professionals or get in touch with counsellors who will help you deal with the issue.

Creating a consistent schedule will significantly improve your situation. You need to incorporate coping mechanisms and therapy with things like a proper sleep schedule and good dieting.

Not getting enough sleep and poor nutrition could delay your recovery process.

Try getting things done early so you can get enough rest at night and embrace healthy eating as part of your lifestyle.