Let’s normalise finding love in our 40s — Anita Nderu

The last time she was hogging showbiz headlines, Anita Nderu, the beautiful TV girl, was defending herself after airing a cooking show that seemed to have a gay theme. It was a messy and ugly affair that got KOT bullying her to silence.

And having defended herself in the last month’s incidence, the rather popular showbiz girl has recovered and is now preaching love and all things good as she advises her fans on how to get used to the new normal.

“Let’s normalise finding love in your 40s, normalise discovering and chasing your dreams in your 30s, normalise finding love yourself and your purpose in your 50s…because life doesn’t end after 25 or the big 30. So let’s stop acting like it does,” she posted on her Instagram.

“I am not saying just chill and hope life works out without effort. I am not suggesting as you are doing your best and leaving the rest to the universe trust that all our stories will not be the same… Don’t be too hard on yourself giving yourself unnecessary pressure and setting for things you don’t want because of a timeline that might not be your life story,” she tipped.

The pressure that comes with social media is immense. From flashy lifestyles to perfect families and ideal vacations, more often than not, we find ourselves punching way above our weight. It is perfectly normal to strive to be better but this should not lead us to depression. One of the most important things is to live within our means and accept that all our scripts differ.

There are those who will finish school by 21years and by 22 they will have a stable job at a reputable company. They will soon get married and seeing their kids will leave you wondering where you went wrong. Others will start by doing all sorts of jobs to save for school and they will even defer for a few semesters and later clear their university education. In between, they may battle several things like supporting siblings, unplanned pregnancies and helping relatives.

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This does not mean they are failures. We are fighting poverty. Let us not compete against each other. Focus on being a better person without setting unrealistic targets.