It is now becoming the norm to hear horror stories about painful periods.
June Chebichi details her journey as an endometriosis survivor from her days as a teenager and eventually in university.
“We lived in a society where this pain was normalized and our mums always told us its normal and that everyone goes through it (well not everyone does!) but maybe that could be the only symptom you get to have in regards to Endometriosis, fibroids or even PCOS.”
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“I have had my fair share of nasty gynaecologists growing up, who talk carelessly after a diagnosis and what’s even worse is, you go in, explain what you feel but just because your are probably 13-14 years you can’t question him/her. So they go right ahead to prescribed some type of “strong” pain killers and well, you get the pain killers, they help but onto the next cycle hell breaks loose, so in my mind i would always think then what were we even treating initially and until one day my mum insisted on an ultrasound.
Through highschool I would gladly walk out of school every month just to get the pain killer shots, and a bunch of other tablets for me to function or else, I would lay in the dormitory half dead since I would be in pain until I get numb!….I am really glad my family was very supportive and my mum, my sister and my brother made it their business to always take me to hospital whenever they could and it always felt so nice…
This transited to campus, same old drama and I would have irregular periods more often than not and every time I missed a period I would rejoice!…..and this continued for about 5 months and my mum couldn’t take it, we went to hospital and the nurse in charge carelessly said campus girls are just the same, its either she is pregnant, aborted or used birth control pills. I was so sad…I broke down and I was forced to do a pregnancy test which obviously tested negative…
I had a lengthy conversation with my mum and I assured her that I have never done either and life continued, later her friend came to our home one day and in the midst of our conversation, my mum mentioned that I have been missing my periods…she directed us to a certain mama who sales traditional meds, out of desperation we went and she said maybe the tubes were blocked…and she massaged my stomach…
And she concluded that it must be the tubes…(however accurate that is, I didn’t bother to question).
She gave me a whole lecture on if I attempted to be with “a friend”…I will not miss to be pregnant… Am simply using her words and she gave me the meds…in a 2 liter container.
I took that medicine religiously but still nothing changed.
And the whole rollercoaster of irregular flow just became normal to me, until late last year when I over bled for almost 5 weeks, it was crazy I took so many meds to stop the bleeding but still nothing changed and I had to come to Nairobi thanks to my aunt who is very cautious and skeptical on health matters…
And the difference was, the gynaecologist did not make any assumptions nor suggestions of what it could be but sent me to the lab…I did all the test and…she was very kind and she explain to me like a 3 year old what exactly was wrong and possible conditions that I might have had in the past but was overlooked.
And as much as I was worried and very scared, I just got an assurance that things were not as bad…but really frustrating.
And at some point I became at ease because I was now sure of what I should do in terms of exercise, food, medicine and all that.
And so far, I appreciate the process because I am not dependant on the injections, maybe once in a while and normal painkillers work.
The 11 years struggle has been real and to parents (mum and dads) and all of us in general its our collective responsibility to end the period stigma and not normalize pain…
It is better to be safe than sorry and its very important to be very proactive in regards to addressing this kind of pain, allow your children to open up to you and make sure you do something about it…
It makes a difference!”