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Ways Kenyans avoid unnecessary conversations in Matatus or in a bus



Not once or twice has a guy tried to strike up conversation me while in a matatu and I instantly got turned off.

I mean there are various ways someone could use to start talking to you and it leads to an exchange of contacts with ease but there are also alot of ways you can strike up a conversation that leads to the exact opposite.

Then there are people who seat next to you and you end up wishing they could just start a conversation… Oh Yes we know!

Having heard stories of ladies’ ordeals with guys & vice versa who just force conversations, below is a list of actions people mostly put into place that say ‘Stop talking, I am not interested mahn…” or if you need a new trick to avoid the unnecessary convo’s we got you covered;

1. Putting on earphones

Nothing says you are unavailable like having earphones on. People will be less likely to talk to you because they will assume that you can’t hear them. In some instances, I know people who simply wear earphones and aren’t listening to music just so you stop bothering them.

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2. Look at your phone.

What would seem as busy as scrolling up and down on your phone? When on phone, we are busy replying to texts or on social media which makes us look down thus avoiding strangers talk.

If someone does interrupt you, you can give a quick answer, like “yes,” and then get right back to your phone to show that you aren’t available to talk.

3. Take a nap/close eyes

Been there done that! Trust this to work!

It’s always awkward to wake up someone who is sleeping, especially if you don’t even know them. If you don’t feel safe sleeping on public transportation, you can simply close your eyes. No one will know the difference and they will definitely hesitate to disturb you. This shows people that you are completely unavailable for talking.

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4. They give short answers.

If someone asks you your name, you can say, “I’m Kate.” But don’t reciprocate the question, or you will give them the impression that you are interested in conversing. If you ask them questions or start adding a lot to the conversation, the person will assume that you are enjoying the conversation and will continue it.

To show that this isn’t true, most people don’t engage beyond short answers.

5. Some people tend to move seats

Some people may not respect your decision of not interacting and ends up rude, just relocate somewhere else.  I have seen ladies switch seats a second after someone left.

If the person is making you uncomfortable this would be a good time to sit somewhere else.

6. Looking Away

A seat by the window is my all time favourite place to seat.

Most Kenyans tend to look out the window to simply avoid even looking at the person sat next to them or just wanting to keep it to themselves.

Ways to look away is just avoiding eye contact. Most people tend to lean on windows, look out windows or closing eyes, with this people resist from disturbing you.